Confident Woman

Feminism and female empowerment is high profile in the media right now but its also important to remember the ways in which women can disempower each other. How to recognise these traits, let the culprits own their behaviour and hold onto your power.

There are reasons why women are perceived as being threatening which includes:

1.    Beauty

2.    Intelligence

3.    Hard work

4.    Confidence

5.    Your dress style

6.    Your Figure

7.    Strong Personality

8.    Affluence

9.    Compassion

10.  Successful

When a woman feels threatened, she is afraid that you will take (or try to take) something she has (her man, her confidence, her best friend, the role she has established in her group, etc.) or wants (like a promotion, a future boyfriend, etc.). In any case, these threatened feelings always stem from her own insecurity. We don’t fear the things we are secure in.

It’s tough being a confident well-rounded woman. Beauty both external and internal coupled with an outstanding mind and a good heart is a gift, celebrate yourself. Other women who don’t know you may strike you out of fear, despising parts of themselves more than they could ever despise you. Stay fabulous!

If you are ever in doubt here are a list of things that confident women don’t do:

1.    They don’t gossip

2.    They don’t follow trends

3.    They don’t doubt themselves

4.    They don’t supress their feelings

5.    They value self-care

6.    They are objective

7.    They are not people pleasers.

8.    They are purpose driven

We don’t have to do much to empower each other. Simple things like respect, a smile and positive comments can create a fertile ground for empowerment.

The journeys of some confident women who overcame great adversity

1.    Helen Keller (1880-1968) A became deaf-blind before her second birthday. Despite this debilitating disability, she learned to read and write, and became the first deaf-blind person to gain a bachelor degree. She campaigned on issues of social welfare, women’s suffrage, disability rights and impressed many with her force of personality.

 2.    Rosa Parks (1913 – 2005) Rosa Parks could have easily been just another statistic in the American system of racial segregation. In the Deep South, black Americans were systematically discriminated against, but on one famous day in 1955, Rosa Parks made a stand and refused to give up her seat to a white passenger. Her brave action sparked a widespread boycott of buses in Montgomery, Alabama.

3.    J.K.Rowling – J.K.Rowling became the world’s best-selling children’s author, despite managing on benefits as a single mother. Initially, her manuscript for Harry Potter was rejected by several publishers.

4.    Malala Yousafzai (1997 ) – Pakistani schoolgirl who defied threats of the Taliban to campaign for the right to education. She survived being shot in the head by the Taliban and has become a global advocate for human rights, women’s rights and the right to education.

 5.    The William sisters – As black women in tennis they have had to deal with double the obstacles. The intersectionality of race and gender is perfectly displayed by the negativity the champions have faced.

 True empowerment starts from within. So lets fix each other’s crowns